I
BELIEVE
She is 92 years
old, petite, well poised, and proud. She is fully dressed each
morning by eight o'clock,
with her hair fashionably coifed, and her makeup perfectly
applied, in spite of the fact she is legally blind.
Today she has moved to a nursing home. Her husband of 70 years
recently passed away, making this
move necessary.
After many hours
of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, where I am
employed, she smiled
sweetly when told her room was ready. As she maneuvered her
walker to the elevator, I provided a visual
description of her tiny room, including the eyelet curtains that
had been hung on her window.
"I love it," she stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy.
"Mrs. Jones, you haven't seen the room...just wait," I said.
Then she spoke these words that I will never forget:
"That does
not have anything to do with it," she gently replied.
"Happiness is something you decide on
ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not, does not depend on
how the furniture is arranged. It is how
I arrange my mind. I have already decided to love it.
It is a decision
I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice. I can spend
the day in bed
recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that
no longer work, or I can get out
of bed and be thankful for the ones that do work. Each day is a
gift, and as long as my eyes open,
I will focus on the new day and all of the happy memories I have
stored away...just for this time in my life.
Old age is like a bank account. You withdraw from what you have already put in.
I believe- that
our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are,
but we are responsible
for who we become.
I believe- that
no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every
once in a while and you must
forgive them for that.
I believe- that
just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to
doesn't mean they don't
love you with all they have.
I believe- that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.
I believe- that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.
I believe-that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
I believe-that you can keep going, long after you can't.
I believe- that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
I believe- that either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I believe-that
heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to
be done, regardless
of the consequences.
I believe-that money is a lousy way of keeping score.
I believe-that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.
I believe-that
sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down,
will be the ones to help you
get back up.
I believe-that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
I believe-that
maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had
and what you've learned
from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've
celebrated.
I believe-that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
I believe-that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief .
I believe-that
just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love
each other .
And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.
I believe-that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
I believe-that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
I believe- that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.
I believe-that
even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries
out to you,
you will find the strength to help.
I believe-that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
I believe-that
the people you care about most in life are taken from you too
soon.